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Attitude: Setting Your Life Compass Part 11

by Bryce Roadley on February 23, 2010

Change is possible (and inevitable).

“If you understand, things are just as they are; if you do not understand, things are just as they are.”

— Famous Zen Buddhist Proverb

In today’s world, things are changing near the speed of light. The technology driving our global economy needs an update almost as soon as it’s created. It even drives many to view modern change as something to be dreaded and even avoided. Futurist Alvin Toffler wrote: “In describing today’s accelerating changes, the media fire blips of unrelated information at us. Experts bury us under mountains of narrowly specialized monographs. Popular forecasters present lists of unrelated trends, without any model to show us their interconnections or the forces likely to reverse them. As a result, change itself comes to be seen as anarchic, even lunatic.”

Those who adopt a positive attitude understand that change is inevitable — it’s a natural part of the ebb and flow of reality. As life travelers, we must make sure our compass reflects the reality of change — that means flexibility in our expectations. Let’s revisit Victor Frankl, the concentration camp survivor and noted psychologist. Prior to World War II, Frankl had every reason to expect to live out a relatively pain free life as a therapist in Vienna. Even as he was dragged away to a “death camp,” Frankl continued to practice an attitude of hope and refused to allow his preconceptions to be so rigid as to break under the yoke of the Nazis.

Although Frankl suffered tremendous loss — his wife, parents and home — he nevertheless journeyed on and used the horrific experience to help thousands of others through his clinical practice and his literary works.

Frankl writes in “Man’s Search for Meaning:

“Just as a small fire is extinguished by the storm whereas a large fire is enhanced by it-likewise a weak faith is weakened by predicament and catastrophes whereas a strong faith is strengthened by them.”[1]


[1] Frankl, Victor: Man’s Search for Meaning, New York: Washington Square Books, 1984

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Attitude: Setting Your Life Compass Part 10

by Bryce Roadley on January 27, 2010

2. Practice positive habits

Once you have “X’ed” away your negative habits — replacing them with more positive activities and behavior, it’s now time to put these habits into practice. Develop a schedule if necessary. Remember the words of Aristotle: “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.” Suppose one reflection of your negativity includes spouting off snide remarks about your colleagues the moment they turn their back. By recognizing why you behave this way — through introspection — you can first, identify the negative habit, which leads to a sour attitude, and consciously replace it with something more positive.

Find subtle yet honest ways to compliment those you used to disparage. Don’t come on too strong and sudden — that smacks of phoniness. You may even feel phony at first — like a surfer trying on a tuxedo. But, remember, it took a lifetime for you to develop your current attitude. Positive behavior takes time as well. Over time, you’ll find that your new set of habits will begin to feel natural because you will have become that kind of person — a person with a positive attitude.

3. Visualize Your New Attitude

Imagine you want to commission a new house built. While searching for an architect, you interview two hopeful prospects. The first one presents a detailed plan for your new home. She uses visual aids and her own imagination to help you virtually “see” how the building will flow with the land, how the beams and rafters will rise and how each room will be laid out.

The second architect simply walks around the building site mumbling to himself. He looks at you and says, “Well, I can’t really explain how I’ll design your house, it’ll just get built somehow.” Which architect will you hire?

You are the architect of the rest of your life. It’s up to you to not only live a positive attitude, but also to project how that life will play out in the movie screen called your imagination. Take some quiet time out of your day and relax in your favorite place — the beach, a park, a calming, quiet room and simply imagine what kind of person you would be if you put the principles of a positive attitude into practice on a daily basis. Write notes about the visualization. Certain scientific studies have shown that repeated visualization of certain behavior may help encourage the brain to form neural pathways to make those activities operate more smoothly.

Once you begin to practice positive attitude habits, you will experience the joy of a slowly-but-surely evolving, life — your compass is pointed toward happiness.

But, don’t make the mistake of thinking the terrain will be the same throughout the journey. Compass needles don’t stay stuck on one heading. Notice how a compass needle responds to changes in directions — in a very flexible, almost feathery, kind of movement. If we don’t make room for change, we risk losing our direction and falling back into a negative attitude.

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Attitude: Setting Your Life Compass Part 9

January 21, 2010

Success is a Force of Habit
Assuming you have come to this point and decided to at least try to live with a positive attitude, your next question is likely to sound something like: “Ok, now what do I do? How do I make my positive attitude relevant in my life?” The “what” and “how” begin [...]

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Attitude: Setting Your Life Compass Part 8

January 21, 2010

Today, the Honda Motor Co. employs thousands of workers in factories across the globe — all because one man refused to allow failures and unfortunate circumstances to stop his dream.
We all have failures in our past. Even remote slip-ups from childhood can reach into our adult lives and stop us from maintaining a “true North” [...]

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Attitude: Setting Your Life Compass Part 7

January 19, 2010

. A Failed Past Does Not Define Us
He should have been a failure.
Soichiro Honda pursued a dream he carried throughout his childhood, to leave his native village of Komyo, Japan and work with automobile engines. As a student, Honda had failed — his impatience for classroom work erupted once when he told a frustrated [...]

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Attitude: Setting Your Life Compass Part 6

January 14, 2010

Francesca Reigler said: “Happiness is an attitude.  We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong.  The amount of work is the same.”
Each individual has to determine what will make one happy. And the only way to get to that point is to examine who we have been, who we are now and who we [...]

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Attitude: Setting Your Life Compass Part 5

January 12, 2010

 
As Frankl found out, there are basically two types: Those who choose to see life through mud-colored glasses and those who see life clearly in 20/20 vision. There is, of course, the third type who see life as 24/7, rosy happiness and fail to acknowledge things the way they are. But that’s simply the same [...]

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Attitude: Setting Your Life Compass Part 4

January 12, 2010

. Trying on a New Attitude
Of course, changing an attitude is not as simple as changing a wardrobe or deciding to take a different motor route. Our life attitude is often a matter of default behavior. Consider a new personal computer. After you take it out of the box and set it up, the PC [...]

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Attitude: Setting Your Life Compass Part 3

January 8, 2010

B. So, How Do You View Life?
Never had the soil of bitterness and anger been so fertile then on the grounds of Nazi concentration camps in World War II. Men, women and children who were deemed undesirable by Hitler’s maniacal regime were shipped far from their homes on railway boxcars like human livestock to compounds [...]

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